Does the word “failure” trigger you? It’s so hard for us to deal with, that we don’t spend a lot of time thinking about the relationship we have with failure. The irony, though, is that failure is one of the most important things to your brain. If you never failed anything throughout your lifetime, you couldn’t walk, talk, ride a bike, or relate to people; everything that’s meaningful to us has a string of failures that are a part of our story.
Instinctively, we all know that failure is important, but we don’t want to talk about, think about and certainly not experience it, definitely not in front of other people. But in reality, the failures that we have is the evidence of how much we’ve done in life, and how much our brain has been able to change and strengthen itself. There is a difference between failure having us, and us having failure. In other words, when we can see failure as an experience in our lives that we can actually create mastery in, we can find the learning in our failure experiences. There are tools that can help us before, during and after experiencing failure, to help us leverage that learning in really powerful ways.